The Client Who Bought a House With Someone Else

I want to tell you about a conversation I had with a broker in Manhattan.

She had a client she had worked with for four years. Referral from a close friend. Good relationship. Real trust. This client bought their first apartment through her, had kids, life got busy, and they lost touch.

Last spring, that client bought a bigger place in Brooklyn. With a different agent.

She found out through a mutual friend. Not a phone call. Not even a text. She found out the way you find out your college roommate got married — through someone else, after the fact.

That client did not leave because they had a bad experience. They left because nobody stayed in touch. And in the absence of contact, someone else filled the space.

This is the invisible revenue leak that does not show up on any report. You cannot see the deals you did not close. You cannot track the referrals that went to someone else because your name was not top of mind. You only find out later, if you find out at all.

The math on this is brutal. The average person knows someone who is buying or selling real estate every two years. Your circle of influence is your most valuable asset and it depreciates faster than anything else in your business.

Staying in touch is not a nice-to-have. It is the job.

The reason it does not happen is not that brokers do not care. It is that staying in touch with 300 people consistently is genuinely hard to do manually. It falls to the bottom of the list every single week because there is always something more urgent.

The brokers running circles around their competitors right now have one thing most do not: a system that stays in touch on their behalf, in their voice, without them having to remember to do it.

Not a generic newsletter. Not a mass email blast. Personalized outreach that knows the client bought a condo in 2019, had a baby in 2021, and might be ready to upsize. That sends a message that sounds like the broker wrote it — because the broker's voice is baked into the system.

The client who bought a house with someone else probably did not even realize they were making a choice. You just were not there when they started thinking about it.

Be there. Build the system that keeps you there.

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